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One fundamental reason why mediocre people remain mediocre and failures remain failures is because they don’t open up a new possibility that will cause them to take action to change their life.
 
The power of creating new possibilities comes from the magical effect that questions have on our lives. The kind of questions we ask ourselves consistently have an affect on the quality of our lives.

If you ask yourself “Why is my life so horrible?” you will get lots of information about why your life horrible. If you ask yourself “Why do I always fail?” you will get lots of information about why you always fail. By doing this again and again, you will see an adverse effect of the results you desire, partially because you will start associating yourself with your mistakes and thus decreases your self-esteem.
 
However if you ask yourself questions like “What if I were to turn this around?”, “How can I turn this around?”, “How can I make it better?”, you will get lots of information about how to go about doing it. But more importantly, you will be driven to take the action to produce the result. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? By changing the quality of the questions you ask, you can start changing your entire experience of life. Questions are the Answers, so ask intelligently and precisely!

Suboptimal thinking is when you ask questions like, “What’s a good/great way to do this?” or “How can I solve this?” Optimal thinking is when you ask, “What’s the best way to do this?” or “How can I solve this in the best way possible?” It may seem like a subtle and unimportant difference, but when you start applying this rule to your life, you’ll see an improvement in results.
 
For example, when planning your next day, you might ask yourself (perhaps subconsciously and nonverbally), “What’s a good way to schedule my time tomorrow?” And by answering that question, you’ll plan a decent schedule for yourself. But it’s most likely a suboptimal schedule. Try instead asking yourself, “What’s the best way to schedule my time tomorrow?” Now you’re seeking the optimal solution, the best instead of just good or even great.